Птн 27 Дек 2013 02:40:18
Вся суть анонаTHE MAJOR ADDICTIONS OF A PERSON WITH LOW SELF-ESTEEM
BLAMING AND COMPLAINING
We blame others and complain to and about them
because we refuse to accept the fact that we are
responsible for everything that happens to us. It is
much easier to blame someone else than to say, It is
I who has the problem: or, It is I who must change.
The person who habitually, complains and blames
others feels inadequate and tries to build himself up
by putting other people down.
We find fault with others because they do not accept
or comply with our own set of values. We compensate
for our feelings of inadequacy by trying to make
ourselves right and make them wrong. Notice that we
frequently do not like it when they do the things we
most dislike about ourselves. When we find fault with
their actions, in effect we are saying, I dont like
myself for doing that, so I cant let you get away
with it. It is psychologically true that we tend to
dislike most in other people those faults or
weaknesses that we have within ourselves.
NEED FOR ATTENTION AND APPROVAL
Many people have a compulsive need for attention and
approval. They are unable to recognize and appreciate
themselves as worthy, adequate individuals of
importance. They have a compulsive need for
continuous confirmation that they are OK, and that
others accept and approve of them.
LACK OF CLOSE FRIENDS
Persons with low self-esteem usually do not have
close friends. Because they do not like themselves,
they generally choose to be either loners, living
their lives apart from others, or manifest the
opposite behavior pattern and become aggressive,
overpowering, critical and demanding. Neither type
of personality is conducive to friendship.
AGGRESSIVE NEED TO WIN:
If we have an obsession to win or be right all the
time, we are suffering from a desperate need to prove
ourselves to those around us. We try to do this
through our achievements. Our motivation is always to
receive acceptance and approval. The whole idea is to
be, in some way, better than the next person.
People who cannot live with themselves because they
do not like the way they are, usually try to satisfy
their needs through a form of substitution. Feeling
deprived and hurt they seek mental and physical
opiates to dull the ache. They medicate themselves
with food, drugs, alcohol or tobacco to get temporary
sensual satisfaction. This allows them to temporarily
cover up their emotional pain and poor self-esteem.
Over indulgence compensates for feelings of selfrejection.
It gives them a temporary reprieve from
facing reality and the growing need to change their
We get depressed because we think something outside
of ourselves is keeping us from having what we want.
We become totally discouraged with ourselves because
we feel out of control, inadequate and unworthy. The
frustration and anxiety in trying to live up to our
own expectations and those of others cause us to have